Tilly's Trans Tuesdays

A weekly examination of trans life, trans representation in media, allyship, and even the broad basics of existing as a trans person in our society.

If you're looking for the text versions, please visit TillysTransTuesdays.com.

About The Show

When I publicly came out as trans, I was keenly aware of how much privilege I was giving up in transitioning from a white (seemingly) cis man to a white trans woman. But I was also very much aware of how much privilege I still had. Which is not to say femme white trans ladies have a lot of privilege in our society, but we certainly have more than every trans woman of color.

On top of that, so many trans people lose spouses, family, friends, homes, and jobs when we come out, and I basically lost none of that. So I remain remarkably more privileged than most trans women, and I recognize that and I wanted to USE it to help people.

I’m a writer, it’s what I do. So I had the thought that I would chronicle my transition, and talk about things cis people might never realize about society, and do what I could to take as much pressure off of other trans people as I could. I had no idea how long I’d be writing them, I thought I’d just talk until I ran out of things to talk about. But that never happened, because so many more things keep getting added to the list. Things I myself never even realized (and couldn’t have) until well into my transition.

So here we are, two and a half years after they started, and there’ve been over one hundred installments (this is 119!) and my mega 24-thread deep dive into the intentional trans allegories of the Matrix movies will be released as a book in the summer of 2023. And it’s that book that actually got me thinking about my Trans Tuesdays as a whole. I was a little hesitant to turn the Matrix threads into a book at first, even though many people who’ve read them have asked for exactly that.

But a very small percentage of the population is on social media, and a book could reach an entirely new audience of people. And so many people have told me how those Matrix threads, and these threads in general, have helped them. And that’s the whole reason I started these. I just want to help people. To be as much of a resource as I can. And that led me to the realization that these threads could reach a lot more people if they were also in another medium.

I don’t speak for all trans people. All I can give you is my own perspective. But with the podcast, now I can also give other trans people a platform to talk about these same issues, to share their thoughts on what being trans means to them.

I want to celebrate us, to share the beauty and complexity of our existence with the world. And whether you read on social media, read them from the website, or listen to the podcast (or all three!), thank you for joining me on this journey.

Tilly Bridges
Executive Producer
Pendant Productions

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Episode Archive

The Only Trans Person You Know

Episode Number: 51

Trans people are a small percentage of the population, though there's actually more than any reports can show. But that means for many cis people out there, if you know a trans person, they're probably the only trans person you know. They're probably the only trans person a LOT of people know. Which means we're constantly getting bombarded with questions (or worse) about our existence from all sides, and the cumulative effect of that can be a problem. Writer/costume designer Aoife Baker returns to discuss stilettos as murder weapons!

Episode download: TTT051.mp3

AOIFE BAKER
Twitter: @vivaciousvandal
Instagram: @vivaciousvandal
Bluesky: @vivaciousvandal

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)
Trans Politics, Why I Do Trans Tuesdays, Trans Kids (and the intake exam)

REFERENCE MATERIAL
About 5% of young adults in the U.S. say their gender is different from their sex assigned at birth - https://www.pewresearch.org/short-reads/2022/06/07/about-5-of-young-adults-in-the-u-s-say-their-gender-is-different-from-their-sex-assigned-at-birth/

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: January 23, 2024

Run Time: 27:01
Gendered Childhoods

Episode Number: 50

A lot of people don't realize how children in our society are bombarded with the "right" and "wrong" ways to be a certain gender, or just how compulsory being a cisgender heterosexual person is. And this damages all kids in all kinds of ways, and makes life much more difficult for trans kids. Writer and costume designer Aoife Baker joins us to discuss hot lady assassins and how we as a society should be beyond urinal cakes!

Episode download: TTT050.mp3

AOIFE BAKER
Twitter: @vivaciousvandal
Instagram: @vivaciousvandal
Bluesky: @vivaciousvandal

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)
Trans Grief 1 and 2, The False Dichotomy, Unexpected Bonuses of Transition, Searching for Meaning (when you're trans and don't know it)

REFERENCE MATERIAL
When Did Girls Start Wearing Pink? - https://www.smithsonianmag.com/arts-culture/when-did-girls-start-wearing-pink-1370097/
The History of Hallmark Christmas Movies - https://anhistorianabouttown.com/the-history-of-hallmark-christmas-movies/

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: January 16, 2023

Run Time: 38:26
Trans Grief 2 (aka The Past 3, aka The New Past 2)

Episode Number: 49

Okay, so you know that I received the AI-generated yearbook photos of a younger me that didn't get to exist... but what you don't know is what they did to me. So we're gonna discuss it, in depth, and the history that wasn't. And it's going to be hard, but something important happened and we need to talk about it. Housewife and writer Miriam Robern returns to discuss being a transbian tradwife! We are hot dorks.

This concludes season one! Thank you all so much for listening, I hope this show has helped you in some way, and maybe made you feel less alone. We'll be back for season two in mid-January!

Episode download: TTT049.mp3

MIRIAM ROBERN
Mastodon: @miriamrobern@dice.camp
Website: miriamrobern.com

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)
Trans Grief 1, Compliments

REFERENCE MATERIAL
Tilly's Starfield playthrough thread w/ screenshots on Mastodon - https://mastodon.social/@tillybridges/111055523953427528
Tilly's Starfield playthrough thread w/screenshots on Twitter - https://twitter.com/TillyBridges/status/1701787089023783361
Mimsy's High School Story - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7jkBgQtqcUw
Tilly's Progesterone Dream Theater posts on Twitter - https://tinyurl.com/TillysPDT

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: December 19, 2023

Run Time: 32:48
Trans Grief 1 (aka The Past 3, aka The New Past 2)

Episode Number: 48

I'm not generally a supporter of AI for most things (it isn't even really AI anyway), and yet I cannot deny the impact it's had upon the trans community. So I wanted to write about it, but what I didn't realize is that what I was really writing about is the past and why it's so complicated for people who transition as adults. And what happens when we can get a glimpse of... a new past? A world that was perhaps more kind to us? We're gonna dig in to the most difficult two trans tuesdays I've ever had to write, because it means confronting really hard stuff. Writer and housewife Miriam Robern joins us to discuss clarity, boobs, and looking like our moms!

Episode download: TTT048.mp3

MIRIAM ROBERN
Mastodon: @miriamrobern@dice.camp
Website: miriamrobern.com

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)
What is Happening (aka a whole new world), Freeing Up My Brain (aka lunch with Tilly), Proactive Allyship (be an accomplice), Three Year Retrospective, Bodily Autonomy (my tattoo), The Past and Why it Haunts US, The Past 2: The New Past (KJ and Paper Girls), Gender Dysphoria, Misgendering and Passing

REFERENCE MATERIAL
Can Artificial Intelligence Help See Cancer in New, and Better, Ways? - https://www.cancer.gov/news-events/cancer-currents-blog/2022/artificial-intelligence-cancer-imaging
Stained Glass Woman: Growing Up Broken - https://stainedglasswoman.substack.com/p/growing-up-broken

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: December 12, 2023

Run Time: 34:05
Trans Voices 3: Interview with Speech-language Pathologist Jein Yi

Episode Number: 47

It's the final episode of our series on trans voices... an interview with the speech-language pathologist that I saw for my gender-affirming speech therapy! We're going to get into the science behind it all, why AMAB and AFAB voices sound different and what it really takes to change them. It takes a long time and a lot of work, but if you're dedicated and put in the effort (with safe and certified instruction), amazing things can happen. Do you... adore the lore behind Al Gore?

Episode download: TTT047.mp3

JEIN YI
Instagram: @affirmvoice

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)
Trans Voices 1: Gendering, Trans Voices 2: Hearing the True You

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: December 5, 2023

Run Time: 46:46
Trans Voices 2: Hearing the True You

Episode Number: 46

We continue our discussion of voice, and what that means when you're transgender. This week we discuss my full gender-affirming speech therapy experience, when is the right time to work on pitch, D-I-S-T-E-R-B, and you get to hear a voice timeline... of me saying the exact same thing, from pre-transition, through every stage of speech therapy, on to where I'm at now. It might blow your mind (it certainly did mine). Sound editor Jillian Morgan returns to discuss becoming comfortable with your trans identity and learning how to smile! And folks, please be sure... that if you're doing voice training on your own, you check the credentials of who you're listening to!

Episode download: TTT046.mp3

JILLIAN MORGAN
https://linktr.ee/audiojillian

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)
What is My Style, Trans Voices 1: Gendering, The Unintentional (?) Trans Allegory of Silo s1

REFERENCE MATERIAL
Begin Transmission: The Trans Allegories of The Matrix audiobook - https://www.audible.com/pd/Begin-Transmission-Audiobook/B0CKLWLPDQ
5 year voice transition timeline - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2txYhkmhVts

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: November 28, 2023

Run Time: 36:44
Trans Voices 1: Gendering

Episode Number: 45

So many of us trans people struggle with our voices. They might spike our dysphoria, or cause us to get misgendered, or just not sound like US. So this week we kick off a three week series all about voice! In this episode, we're going to talk about how incredibly gendered voices are in our society, what that does to us, and how to approach that if you're seeking out gender-affirming voice therapy. Our lovely sound editor Jillian Morgan joins us once again to discuss fabulous cis wives, and the parts of this show that you'll never get to hear. My tummy!

Episode download: TTT045.mp3

JILLIAN MORGAN
https://linktr.ee/audiojillian

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)
Misgendering and Passing, Proactive Allyship (be an accomplice), Trans Kids and the Intake Exam

REFERENCE MATERIAL
When I Hear a Trans Woman's Voice by Ari Drennen - https://twitter.com/AriDrennen/status/1385976409043001347

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: November 21, 2023

Run Time: 30:55
The Trans Allegory of Silo s1, part 9

Episode Number: 44

We made it! This is the final episode of our discussion of the trans allegory of Silo s1 on AppleTV+! And we're talking all about the season finale, and how the ending maybe doesn't mean what you think it means. We're gonna talk about how even those at the top buy into the lie, and how we need solidarity and community because we can't do it alone. The sagacious Samantha Cuddy returns to discuss how hate and bigotry are taught. And hey... we can't be friends if you're stepping on my neck.

Episode download: TTT044.mp3

SAMANTHA CUDDY
Mastodon: @Reborn_Cat_Mom@chaosfem.tw

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)
Trans People Are Human Beings (stop staring at us), Anecdotal Trans Healthcare, Cis Grief

REFERENCE MATERIAL
The Entertainment Community Fund to support striking writers, actors, and affected crew - https://entertainmentcommunity.org/
The LALGBT Center's Trans Wellness Center - https://mytranswellness.org/

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: November 14, 2023

Run Time: 23:20
The Trans Allegory of Silo s1, part 8

Episode Number: 43

It's the penultimate episode of our discussion of the trans allegory of Silo season 1 on AppleTV+! This week we discuss how it's socially acceptable to hide your queerness, how the rules only apply to the oppressed and not the oppressors, and how if you're not fighting alongside us for our rights you're an integral part of the power structure that oppresses us. The luminous Samantha Cuddy returns to discucss, and we get a big confirmation of one of my theories!

Episode download: TTT043.mp3

SAMANTHA CUDDY
Mastodon: @Reborn_Cat_Mom@chaosfem.tw

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)
The Constant Fight, Cis Grief

REFERENCE MATERIAL
The Entertainment Community Fund to support striking writers, actors, and affected crew - https://entertainmentcommunity.org/

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: November 7, 2023

Run Time: 19:02
The Trans Allegory of Silo s1, part 7

Episode Number: 42

It's part seven of our examination of the trans allegory of Silo season 1 on AppleTV+! This week we talk about the importance of chosen family, how we're not allowed to have knowledge society doesn't approve of, and how we're saddled with obligations to keep us too busy and exhausted to examine the big questions. Oh, and rabbits! The junoesque Samantha Cuddy returns to discuss how trans people have to be our own amateur lawyers and endocrinologists! And hey... toxic bigots don't deserve to be in your life just because they share your genetic material.

Episode download: TTT042.mp3

SAMANTHA CUDDY
Mastodon: @Reborn_Cat_Mom@chaosfem.tw

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)
Anecdotal Trans Healthcare, Cis Grief

REFERENCE MATERIAL
The Entertainment Community Fund to support striking writers, actors, and affected crew - https://entertainmentcommunity.org/
Begin Transmission: The Trans Allegories of The Matrix - https://www.amazon.com/Begin-Transmission-trans-allegories-Matrix-ebook/dp/B0C2MPVH9C/

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: October 31, 2023

Run Time: 17:32
The Trans Allegory of Silo s1, part 6

Episode Number: 41

We're in the back half of season one of Silo from AppleTV+, and it only gets transier from here! This week we talk about how power is used to control communication and information, rewards for conforming to the false cis binary, and you guessed it... SUPERtext! The pulchritudinous Samantha Cuddy returns to discuss how little of our own lives we remember due to dissociation! And hey... don't be on the nazis' side.

Episode download: TTT041.mp3

SAMANTHA CUDDY
Mastodon: @Reborn_Cat_Mom@chaosfem.tw

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)
The Constant Fight, Into the Unknown (aka What is Happening aka A Whole New World), Freeing Up My Brain (Lunch with TIlly), False Allyship, Why I Do Trans Tuesdays (expansion and podcast)

REFERENCE MATERIAL
The Entertainment Community Fund to support striking writers, actors, and affected crew - https://entertainmentcommunity.org/
Most state bans on gender-affirming care for trans youth still allow controversial intersex surgery - https://www.pbs.org/newshour/health/most-state-bans-on-gender-affirming-care-for-trans-youth-still-allow-controversial-intersex-surgery

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: October 24, 2023

Run Time: 16:44
The Trans Allegory of Silo s1, part 5

Episode Number: 40

Today we're jumping right in to possibly the single transiest episode of the entire first season of Silo on AppleTV+! We're gonna talk about forbidden questions, and The Big Question, and dysphoria, and bringing order from chaos... and what you do when you discover your entire life has been a lie. The out of this world Samantha Cuddy returns to discuss puppets of society!

Episode download: TTT040.mp3

SAMANTHA CUDDY
Mastodon: @Reborn_Cat_Mom@chaosfem.tw

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)
Trans People Have Always Existed, Cis People Get Gender Affirming Healthcare Too, Gender Dysphoria, The Past and Why it Haunts Us

REFERENCE MATERIAL
The Entertainment Community Fund to support striking writers, actors, and affected crew - https://entertainmentcommunity.org/

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: October 17, 2023

Run Time: 24:13
The Trans Allegory of Silo s1, part 4

Episode Number: 39

More about the trans allegory of Silo on AppleTV+? You better believe it! This week we cover episodes 4 and 5 of the show, and we're gonna talk about trans childhood trauma, eggs cracking, and how the truth can unlock the doors in front of you. Samantha Cuddy returns to discuss how this is *your* journey! We're spreadin' the sensational around!

Episode download: TTT039.mp3

SAMANTHA CUDDY
Mastodon: @Reborn_Cat_Mom@chaosfem.tw

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)
The Past (and why it haunts us), Searching for Meaning (when you're trans and don't know it), Cis People Get Gender Affirming Healthcare Too

REFERENCE MATERIAL
The Entertainment Community Fund to support striking writers, actors, and affected crew - https://entertainmentcommunity.org/
Shakespeare gets caught in Florida's 'Don't Say Gay' laws - https://www.nbcnews.com/nbc-out/out-politics-and-policy/shakespeare-gets-caught-floridas-dont-say-gay-laws-rcna98970
Texas Republicans Seem Hell-Bent on Turning K–12 Schools Into Churches - https://www.vanityfair.com/news/2023/04/texas-republican-turning-k-12-schools-into-churches

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: October 10, 2023

Run Time: 25:07
The Trans Allegory of Silo s1, part 3

Episode Number: 38

The deep-dive into the trans allegory of Silo on AppleTV+ continues! This week we cover episodes 2 and 3 of the show, and discuss the importance (and fear) of water and what it means, we begin the search for the truth (about society and about ourselves), how trans people and schematics are connected, and the hypocrisy of denying trans people things cis people get without question. Samantha Cuddy returns to discuss the importance of sharing stories! Oh, and say hello to my old friend SUPERtext!

Episode download: TTT038.mp3

SAMANTHA CUDDY
Mastodon: @Reborn_Cat_Mom@chaosfem.tw

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)
Cis Grief, Searching for Meaning (when you're trans and don't know it), Cis People Get Gender Affirming Healthcare Too,

REFERENCE MATERIAL
The Entertainment Community Fund to support striking writers, actors, and affected crew - https://entertainmentcommunity.org/

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: October 3, 2023

Run Time: 30:17
The Trans Allegory of Silo s1, part 2

Episode Number: 37

We continue our examination of Silo from AppleTV+! In this episode we finish out the pilot, establishing the world and setting up so much in metaphor that will pay off down the line. Wife, mother, geek, corporate queer, and cat herder Samantha Cuddy returns to discuss robust transgender care and making things better for those who are coming after. It's a good blood!

Episode download: TTT037.mp3

SAMANTHA CUDDY
Mastodon: @Reborn_Cat_Mom@chaosfem.tw

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)
Anecdotal Trans Healthcare, Transition Setbacks, Trans People Have Always Existed, Trans Rep in Media in 2022, Bad Representation, Internalized Transphobia, The False Dichotomy, Photos (and reflections)

REFERENCE MATERIAL
The Entertainment Community Fund to support striking writers, actors, and affected crew - https://entertainmentcommunity.org/
The Forgotten History of the World's First Trans Clinic - https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/the-forgotten-history-of-the-worlds-first-trans-clinic/
New Research Reveals how the Nazis Targeted Transgender People - https://www.smithsonianmag.com/history/new-research-reveals-how-the-nazis-targeted-transgender-people-180982931/

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: September 26, 2023

Run Time: 44:31
The Trans Allegory of Silo s1, part 1

Episode Number: 36

This year I was absolutely STUNNED by Silo on AppleTV+. Not only is it a fantastic show, it's got a fabulous trans allegory that has a whole lot to say, so we're going to discuss the ENTIRE SEASON! This will be a NINE PART series, and spoilers abound! If you haven't seen the show yet and don't want to be spoiled, watch it before listening! In this episode, we discuss the world, the symbolism, the characters, and then delve into the first half of the pilot episode! Wife, mother, geek, corporate queer, and cat herder Samantha Cuddy joins us to discuss how seeing (and feeling like) yourself for the first time makes you a better person! Oh, and cats don't go to first grade.

Episode download: TTT036.mp3

SAMANTHA CUDDY
Mastodon: @Reborn_Cat_Mom@chaosfem.tw

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)
Begin Transmission: The Trans Allegories of The Matrix - https://www.amazon.com/Begin-Transmission-trans-allegories-Matrix-ebook/dp/B0C2MPVH9C/
The Trans Allegory of Real Genius, The Trans Allegory of The Little Mermaid's "Part of Your World", The Trans Allegory of The Twilight Zone's "Nervous Man in a Four Dollar Room", Gender Dysphoria, Interview with Maya Deane author of "Wrath Goddess Sing", Cis Grief, Trans Kids and the Intake Exam, Trans Rage, Bodily Autonomy (and my tattoo)

REFERENCE MATERIAL
The Entertainment Community Fund to support striking writers, actors, and affected crew - https://entertainmentcommunity.org/

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: September 19, 2023

Run Time: 27:20
Proactive Allyship (be an accomplice)

Episode Number: 35

A whole lot of people like to think of themselves as trans allies, but the second they have to do something that makes them uncomfortable their allyship evaporates. And that's NOT allyship. What we need are accomplices who are proactive in trans rights and liberation, so let's talk about what that looks like... along with the WGA strike! (they're related, trust me.) Professor and writer of Stained Glass Woman Zoe Ann Wendler (Doc Impossible) returns to discuss unreal reflections and how she wants you to fail as hard as you can! I want a slumber party!

Episode download: TTT035.mp3

ZOE ANN WENDLER
Mastodon: @Impossible_PhD@hachyderm.io
Reddit: Impossible_PhD
Stained Glass Woman: https://stainedglasswoman.substack.com

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)
Performative Allyship, False Allyship, What Real Cis Acceptance Looks Like, No Escape 2: Some Escape, The Intentional Trans Allegories of The Matrix, Trans Representation in Media 2022, Cis is Not a Slur, Interview with Shakina

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: September 12, 2023

Run Time: 29:47
Misgendering and Passing

Episode Number: 34

Attention assorted troublemakers and foolish mortals! This week's topic is actually two topics that are intrinsically related, both easy to understand but sometimes difficult to talk about. "Sir" and "miss" can be heavily loaded words, in ways both good and bad. But whenever misgendering happens, remember it's about the people misgendering you and not about YOU. Professor and writer of Stained Glass Woman Zoe Ann Wendler (Doc Impossible) joins us to discuss panopticons, how trans people are always observed, and sticky guesses! Aye Captain? Yes Chef!

Episode download: TTT034.mp3

ZOE ANN WENDLER
Mastodon: @Impossible_PhD@hachyderm.io
Reddit: Impossible_PhD
Stained Glass Woman: https://stainedglasswoman.substack.com

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)
Trans Rep in Media in 2022, Implicit Queerphobia, Confidence, Trans People Are Human Beings (stop staring at us), Chasers and the Fetishization of Trans Women, Internalized Transphobia, The Constant Fight, The Past and Why it Haunts Us

REFERENCE MATERIAL
Getting (Mis)Gendered: The science behind getting Sir'd, Miss'd, and why things go wrong - https://stainedglasswoman.substack.com/p/getting-misgendered

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: September 5, 2023

Run Time: 32:26
Finding Our Trans Style

Episode Number: 33

When you spend your whole pre-transition life stuck in clothes you hate that make you feel awful, it can be overwhelming and difficult to figure out exactly what it is you want to wear, and what you actually like. Screenwriter Max Luque returns us to discuss how he's not a supporter of the long-shorts movement and how validation and self-worth comes from within!

Episode download: TTT033.mp3

MAX LUQUE
Insta: @max.luque

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)
Heavily Gendered Clothes and Trans People, Sexuality is Not Gender, HRT, Tucking and Binding, Trans Freedom (and underwear), Three Year Retrospective, Privilege (time and money), Confidence, The False Dichotomy

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: August 29, 2023

Run Time: 33:48
Privilege (time and money)

Episode Number: 32

Transitioning takes self-reflection, and courage, and self love... but it also takes time, and money, and often a lot of both. That's a privilege not a lot of trans people have, and we're gonna talk about how that can complicate things. Screenwriter Max Luque joins us to discuss new jeans, and how things are weird and uncomfortable all the time.

Episode download: TTT032.mp3

MAX LUQUE
Insta: @max.luque

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)
The Erasure of Trans Men, Trans Intersectionality, What Real Cis Acceptance Looks Like, Body Hacking, Three Year Retrospective, HRT, Voice, Voice 2, Anecdotal Trans Healthcare, Expansion (the future of Trans Tuesdays), Gender Dysphoria

REFERENCE MATERIAL
LGBT Poverty in the United States - https://williamsinstitute.law.ucla.edu/publications/lgbt-poverty-us/
Trans GoFundMes - https://www.gofundme.com/mvc.php?route=homepage_norma/search&term=transgender

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: August 22, 2023

Run Time: 31:12
Confidence

Episode Number: 31

When your every waking moment is dysphoric, being seen can make things so much worse. So we find ways to make ourselves smaller, to go unnoticed... until we transition and maybe everything changes. Artist and activist Leo Wright returns to discuss doing drag while trans, trans trenders, and mind-flipping. Are you jealous of my eyelashes? You should be!

Episode download: TTT031.mp3

LEO WRIGHT
Insta: @leonardodavagrant

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)
Trans Intersectionality, Into the Unknown (aka What is Happening aka A Whole New World), The Intentional Trans Allegories of The Matrix, Gender Dysphoria, Freeing Up My Brain (aka Lunch with Tilly), That Old Dysphoric Feeling (transphobia is always with us), The Signs Were Always There

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: August 15, 2023

Run Time: 36:15
Cis is Not a Slur

Episode Number: 30

There are some people out there (dunderheads, let's say) who believe "cis" is a slur and not just an accurate descriptor. They're entirely wrong, and not only do I have the proof, I know exactly why their undies are in a wad over it. The answer may not surprise you! Artist and activist Leo Wright joins us to discuss gender attachments and social upheaval! Card-carrying queers, boxes being no good, sea lioning, the motte and bailey fallacy... we've got it all.

Episode download: TTT030.mp3

LEO WRIGHT
Insta: @leonardodavagrant

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)
T*RFs

REFERENCE MATERIAL
The transphobic war on the word "cis" goes back an entire decade - https://www.rollingstone.com/culture/culture-features/transphobic-war-cis-elon-musk-j-k-rowling-jordan-peterson-1234780337/
I coined the word "cisgender" 29 years ago. Here's what this controversial word really means - https://www.huffpost.com/entry/what-cisgender-means-transgender_n_63e13ee0e4b01e9288730415
Has the term "straight white male" really become an insult? - https://www.theguardian.com/world/2018/may/22/has-straight-white-male-become-an-insult-slur

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

REFERENCE MATERIAL
Begin Transmission: The Trans Allegories of The Matrix - https://www.amazon.com/Begin-Transmission-trans-allegories-Matrix-ebook/dp/B0C2MPVH9C/

Release Date: August 8, 2023

Run Time: 24:35
Three Year Retrospective

Episode Number: 29

It's time for my three years out as trans and three years on hormone replacement therapy check-in! We're gonna talk about what went right, what went wrong, and where things are at on this long journey to the true me. Marketing and communications executive Caitlin Carroll returns to discuss Batman night lights, how Arcee is trans, and how it's okay to perceive me now!

Episode download: TTT029.mp3

CAITLIN CARROLL
Website: https://www.linkedin.com/in/caitlincarroll48/

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)
Good Representation (Cyberpunk 2077), One Year Retrospective, Two Year Retrospective, HRT (and patience), Gender Dysphoria, Transition Setbacks, Transitioning During a Pandemic, Anecdotal Trans Healthcare, Body Hair, Photos, Photos 2 (the selfie apocalypse), Performative Allyship, Body Hacking, Hair, Hair 2 (first haircut), Trans People in Sports, Bodily Autonomy (my tattoo), Confidence, Into the Unknown (aka what is happening aka a whole new world), Voice, Voice 2 (hearing the true you), The Intentional Trans Allegories of The Matrix (and my book)

REFERENCE MATERIAL
Begin Transmission: The Trans Allegories of The Matrix - https://www.amazon.com/Begin-Transmission-trans-allegories-Matrix-ebook/dp/B0C2MPVH9C/

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: July 18, 2023

Run Time: 34:32
Transition Setbacks

Episode Number: 28

The beginning of this year was really rough for me. Nothing in life is a straight line of forward progress forever, so why would transition be? But when it feels like your identity is being stripped away, it can be so difficult to deal with. Marketing and communications executive Caitlin Carroll joins us to discuss the emboldening of bigotry, MMA fighting, and becoming our own endocrinologists!

Episode download: TTT028.mp3

CAITLIN CARROLL
Website: https://www.linkedin.com/in/caitlincarroll48/

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)
Body Hacking, Anecdotal Trans Healthcare, Body Hair

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: July 11, 2023

Run Time: 31:48
Compliments

Episode Number: 27

Compliments! Receiving them pre-transition can be anxiety-inducing, but after transition? Maybe that's changed. And when the way society perceives you changes, you might also be opened up to a new world of being to compliment others. YouTuber Alexis Soucie/TransCinderella returns to discuss melting Legos, the "trans lady in denial uniform," and how the general public really doesn't hate trans people. Try gay today!

Episode download: TTT027.mp3

ALEXIS SOUCIE
Twitter: @transcinderella
Insta: @transcinderella
Website: transcinderella.com

FURTHER READING
(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)
Sexuality is Not Gender, The Signs Were Always There (that we're trans), Confidence, Into the Unknown (aka What is Happening aka A Whole New World), What Real Cis Acceptance Looks Like

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.
Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

Release Date: July 4, 2023

Run Time: 35:47

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Tilly's Trans Tuesdays

Episode Archive

The Only Trans Person You Know

Gendered Childhoods

Trans Grief 2 (aka The Past 3, aka The New Past 2)

Trans Grief 1 (aka The Past 3, aka The New Past 2)

Trans Voices 3: Interview with Speech-language Pathologist Jein Yi

Trans Voices 2: Hearing the True You

Trans Voices 1: Gendering

The Trans Allegory of Silo s1, part 9

The Trans Allegory of Silo s1, part 8

The Trans Allegory of Silo s1, part 7

The Trans Allegory of Silo s1, part 6

The Trans Allegory of Silo s1, part 5

The Trans Allegory of Silo s1, part 4

The Trans Allegory of Silo s1, part 3

The Trans Allegory of Silo s1, part 2

The Trans Allegory of Silo s1, part 1

Proactive Allyship (be an accomplice)

Misgendering and Passing

Finding Our Trans Style

Privilege (time and money)

Confidence

Cis is Not a Slur

Three Year Retrospective

Transition Setbacks

Compliments

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